Ladies, Reveal Your Sexy Side to Express Your Authentic Self

“Elizabeth, why do you cover up your body?” asked a friend who wore very stylish clothes that hugged her curves. “You have a gorgeous shape.”

“You dress like a nun or a school marm,” said a man who said I’d never be successful until I unleashed my secret sexy side.

“Biss, why are you so covered up?” asked my friend, pointing to the sweat jacket wrapped around my waist and covering my butt during a bike ride on the Detroit RiverWalk.

Flash forward 6 years, and I’m wearing thong bikinis, leather mini dresses and curve-hugging jeans.

Because I let my sexy out of hiding, and I feel amazing. I’ve liberated myself from worrying about what people say or think about my body.

So, are you hiding your sexy side?

And if so, why?

Chances are, fear, shame or guilt are keeping you covered up.

They were for me.

I didn’t want the attention of people staring at my body and making comments, which are usually something like:

“Damn, she got a big ass for a white chick.”

That’s what some men on a bench during my previous bike ride had said, loudly, like commenting on the spectactor sport of booty watching. Well, I didn’t like being the subject of that kind of public attention. Hence, the cover-up.

I was also just straight up uncomfortable with my body.

As a multiracial woman, at first glance people think I’m white.

Then they see I have the shape of a Black woman’s body. This inspires stares and a variety of faces.

For men who don’t like my shape, they simply look away.

Those who see this as idea, stare and often make loud comments that made me very uncomfortable.

I always thought my butt was too big, and had been told so by men and women, boyfriends and family members.

And though I have always felt very sexually liberated behind closed doors, I’ve always kept that side of myself secret.

But I began to realize what became a major tenet of the Goddess Power Show: that owning our power, especially with pleasure, frees us and boosts our confidence.

So I did a lot of work on myself exploring why I kept my sexy side hidden.

And what it was costing me in terms of happiness and freedom.

Gradually, I uncovered and freed this side of myself.

Now I feel amazing, uninhibited, and eager to share this message with you.

So today, think about what you’re holding back, and why, and how you’d rather be.

Write in your journal about it.

Then take small action steps—buy a sexier blouse, some curve-hugging jeans, or a bikini—that push you toward the power to express your most authentic self.

Don’t be afraid to reveal your sexy side. She’s part of the true you, and she deserves to be see and heard!